Wednesday, January 19, 2011
What Every Mom Needs
I really enjoy reading. I wish I had more time for it, but I fit it in as best I can. Lately, usually it's been while snuggling with my precious baby girl. She's a great cuddler.
Last week, I started reading the book, What Every Mom Needs: Meet Your Nine Basic Needs (and Be a Better Mom). It's written by Elisa Morgan & Carol Kuykendall, of MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers). What an encouragement it's been to me. I've read it before (when I had just one child), but it's even more relevant to me now, I think.
Here's what it says on the inside cover:
"Being the mother of a young child is a tough job, but now you can find help and understanding. Elisa Morgan & Carol Kuykendall of MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) International point the way to relief & fulfillment in the midst of motherhood's hectic pace. After more than 20 years of research & experience with moms, MOPS has identified your nine basic needs as a mother: significance, identity, growth, intimacy, instruction, help, recreation, perspective, and hope. The authors show how meeting those needs will not only make you more content - it'll make you a better mom. "
I've found myself agreeing with so many of the examples of daily life mentioned in the book, saying "Yep, that's me... that describes our day". And it's great when a book puts into words exactly how you feel. It's comforting. It's validating. It reminds you that you're human, along with everyone else. That you're not out there on your own planet somewhere. It's so easy to forget that you're not alone when you spend your day taking care of little ones, with little adult interaction.
Although I couldn't be happier with how God has blessed our family with 4 wonderful children... I mean, this is the life I've always wanted, right?... I have to say it's tough just getting through each day. Having 3 under 2 years old is hard work! Trying to be there for each one of my children is difficult. I feel like there's not enough of me to go around. When 2 kids are crying (for completely different reasons) & you're right in the middle of making dinner or something, you just can't physically be there for everyone. And that's something that's hard for me. I want to be there for my children.
Time seems to be just flying by & I just want to slow it down so I can really enjoy my children. I mean REALLY enjoy them. Some days are better than others, but there are times that I'm so exhausted that I wish I could just take the rest of the day off & sleep (or read)... (or finish my cold breakfast that's still sitting on the table). Yet there are precious children to feed, diapers to change, bills to pay, library books due (yesterday), a phone call to make, & laundry taking over the laundry room. None of those things can be ignored.
No, taking the day off just isn't an option. This is a season of my life where I have a lot of little ones depending on me each day. I just pray God will help me to have a good attitude & give me the strength I need each day to be the kind of mom He wants me to be & that I will have the energy to do some fun things with them too each day rather than "just get through the day". I'm sure when I look back on this time, it'll mostly be a blurr, but I hope there are some sweet memories that stand out as well.